Marriage —— A tug of war

Don’t let my title fool you. I am not going to profess how terrible a marriage can be and lament on the fights between husband and wife. I did call it a tug of war- but that which helps sustain the married life.

When I say Tug of war, our minds would immediately jump to screenshots of two mighty teams each on either side of the rope trying to pull the other to their side. If anyone of them loosens the grip, the other might win but still go crashing down.  The end.

To sustain a marriage we need a lot manythings. One main aspect is the willingness to hold on to the other. We might try to force the other to come to our side.  We might have contradictions- thats what keeps life interesting.  Hold on. It can be tiresome. It can test your strength – mental & physical. It can test your ego. If both of you grip your end of the rope with equal strength and passion, the rope stays there straight and tense as long as you want it to be. This is where mistakes happen in marriage. While in the game, we hold on to our side strongly, in marriage we often end up on relying on the other person to hold on to the relationship. Pick up the rope with trust that the other one would hold on to it as strongly as you do. If they don’t you’d know it soon enough. To have it straight, sometimes you give in, sometimes you pull hard. But when one wants to topple the other, as I said earlier, the game ends then and there.

 You may ask, what if we are tired of holding it? [Dumb! ;P] Then I suggest, wink at eachother, take a break, and continue with your tug of war.  Thats what makes you successful players in the game of life.